Celebrate Small Wins and Efforts

Wait, are we really throwing a parade because my kid put on ONE sock by herself? Yes. Yes, we are. Because in the land of parenting, these tiny victories are the stuff of legend—like finding a matching pair of baby shoes. If you’ve ever cheered like your team won the Super Bowl just because someone peed in the potty (even a little), this is your playbook.

When you celebrate small wins, your brain releases dopamine—the ‘hey, good job!’ chemical—which boosts motivation for both you and your child. Kids learn that effort matters, not just results, which builds confidence and resilience over time. Parents get a much-needed mood boost and a reminder that progress is progress, even if it’s one crumb at a time.

How to do it

  1. Notice the tiny effort your child makes—even if it’s just an attempt. Small steps deserve recognition.

  2. Name the effort out loud. For example, say, "You put your shoes on all by yourself!" This helps your child connect their action with your encouragement.

  3. Add a little flair to your celebration. You could give a high-five, do a silly dance, offer a sticker, or make a dramatic gasp. Make it fun and memorable.

  4. Keep your reaction genuine. Kids can tell when you’re faking enthusiasm, so celebrate sincerely.

  5. Repeat often. Celebration is a muscle that gets stronger with use, not a one-time thing.

Key Tips:

  • Focus on effort, not just results.
  • Use specific language to describe what you noticed.
  • Mix up your celebrations to keep things exciting.
  • Consistency helps build your child’s confidence and motivation.

When your child tries something new or does a routine task (even halfway).

Say, 'I saw that! You did it!' and give a thumbs up.
Do a one-second happy dance or say 'Go us!'
Put a sticker chart or jar somewhere visible (fridge, bathroom mirror, wherever you’ll see it).

Right after your child completes a daily routine (like brushing teeth or putting away toys).

Point out the effort—'You remembered to brush your teeth!'
Give yourself a mental fist bump or a quiet 'Yes!'
Set a reminder on your phone to look for something small to celebrate each day.

When you catch your child trying, even if it’s not perfect.

Offer the special high-five or handshake.
Smile and say, 'We did it!' together.
Teach your child a special high-five or handshake for celebrations.
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