Take Paternity Leave If It's Available to You

Thinking about paternity leave? Or just wondering if your job will combust in your absence? Welcome to the club. This is your official permission slip to step away from spreadsheets and step into the land of spit-up, snuggles, and the mysterious world of daytime TV. Spoiler: your workplace will survive, but these baby snuggles are a limited-time offer.

Taking paternity leave isn’t just about being at home—it’s about showing up for your baby and yourself. Research says that dads who take leave are more bonded with their kids, have lower stress, and are less likely to feel like background extras in their own family sitcom. Babies benefit too: more dad time = more secure attachment, and your partner gets a real teammate (not just a sleepwalking roommate). Your brain gets a shot of happy chemicals from all that skin-to-skin and baby giggles. Win-win.

How to do it

First, check your company’s policy—yes, actually read the whole thing. Make sure you understand your rights and any procedures you need to follow.

Talk to your boss early, and be honest about your plans. It might feel awkward, but clear communication is necessary.

Set up an out-of-office email. There’s no need to apologize for being a parent—just state the facts and let people know when you’ll be back.

Once you’re home, try to be present. Put down your phone (unless you’re taking 47 pictures of your baby yawning).

Split baby duties with your partner. Teamwork makes a big difference, and sharing responsibilities helps everyone adjust.

Remember: it’s okay if you don’t know what you’re doing. Nobody does at first.

Key Tips:

  • Read your company’s parental leave policy thoroughly.
  • Communicate openly and early with your manager.
  • Keep your out-of-office message simple and unapologetic.
  • Focus on your family time—limit distractions.
  • Share responsibilities with your partner.
  • Don’t stress about having all the answers—everyone learns as they go.

When you first log in to work on Monday morning.

Send one email to HR or your manager asking about your paternity leave options.
Do a tiny fist pump or reward yourself with a guilt-free scroll through baby memes.
Add your paternity leave dates to your work calendar and set up your out-of-office auto-reply.

Each time you walk past your new dad-zone corner.

Sit down and hold your baby for one minute, no distractions.
Take a deep breath and savor the baby smell (even if it’s mixed with diaper aroma).
Set up a cozy corner at home with a comfy chair, snacks, and baby supplies.

When you check your phone in the morning.

Ask your partner what one thing you can do to help today.
Give your partner a high-five or exchange a knowing eye roll about how little either of you slept.
Create a shared calendar with your partner for baby care shifts.