Reflect on What Gives You a Sense of Purpose and Meaning in Fatherhood
Ever find yourself staring into the abyss of a laundry basket and wondering, 'Wait, is this what legacy looks like?' If the existential dread hits somewhere between diaper changes and the 17th reading of Goodnight Moon, this is for you. Let’s talk about why you bother to keep showing up, even when the only thanks you get is a half-chewed animal cracker shoved in your pocket.
Reflecting on purpose can boost your emotional resilience (science says so!), making you less likely to lose it when the milk spills for the third time. It helps you connect more deeply with your kiddo, and even gives your brain a little shot of dopamine—the good stuff. For your child, watching you find meaning in the mess models emotional intelligence and grit, which, let’s face it, they’ll need for their own future sock-folding disasters.
How to do it
First, grab a minute—literally, just one—when things quiet down. This could be during nap time or even while you’re hiding in the bathroom.
- Ask yourself: What’s one thing today that made me feel like a real dad?
- Jot down a word or two as your answer. (Yes, “survived” absolutely counts!)
- If you’re feeling brave, share your answer with your partner or write it on a sticky note.
- Repeat this process as needed, especially after epic meltdowns or when you’re questioning your life choices in the frozen food aisle.
Tips:
- Keep your notes short and simple—no need for full sentences.
- Use whatever scrap of paper or app is handy.
- Don’t worry about being profound; honesty is what matters.
- Make it a habit, especially on tough days.
Taking these small moments can help you reflect, laugh, and remember you’re doing better than you think.
