Join a Fathers' Support Group (Online or In-Person)

Ever feel like you’re the only dad who Googles 'how to swaddle' at 3 a.m. or wonders if his kid’s meltdown is a universal toddler law? Welcome to the secret society of fatherhood: a place where you can swap war stories, ask the 'dumb' questions, and realize you’re not the only one who’s replaced actual hobbies with diaper-changing speed runs. If you’re craving solidarity, dad jokes, and maybe a few survival tips, this one’s for you.

Connecting with other dads lowers stress, boosts your mood, and helps you realize you’re not alone in the sleep-deprived wilderness. Sharing stories and getting support lights up the social parts of your brain, releases feel-good chemicals (hello, oxytocin!), and can even make you a more patient parent. For your kid, a happier, less isolated dad means more positive interactions and emotional stability at home.

How to do it

  1. Search online or ask friends about local or online dads’ groups. Bonus points if you find one that offers actual snacks.

  2. Choose a meeting to attend—even if you’re still in your pajama pants.

  3. Introduce yourself. This can be as simple as a wave or sharing a meme in the chat.

  4. Participate by sharing and listening. Remember, everyone’s kid has peed on the floor at some point.

  5. Keep attending, even if you miss a week (or three). Consistency is where the magic happens.

Tips:

  • Don’t worry about being perfect; just showing up is enough.
  • Online groups can be just as supportive as in-person ones.
  • Small gestures, like a quick hello, help you feel more connected.
  • It’s normal to feel awkward at first—most people do.
  • The more you participate, the easier it becomes.

When you finish putting your kid to bed (and finally sit down).

Open the bookmarked page and skim the latest post or event.
Mentally high-five yourself for doing something for you, not just the tiny overlord.
Bookmark one or two dads’ group websites or Facebook pages on your phone.

When your phone buzzes with the calendar notification.

Send a quick RSVP or emoji in the group chat—even if you’re not sure you’ll make it.
Smile at how low the bar is for participation—and that you cleared it.
Add a recurring reminder in your calendar for group meeting times.

When you’re microwaving your third cup of coffee for the day.

Send a dad joke, question, or emoji to the group thread.
Do a dramatic air drum solo with your coffee mug.
Download the Zoom app or join the group’s WhatsApp/Discord.